A TYPICAL STRESS PHOBIC
Steve is a typical stress phobic. He came to see me suffering from ulcerative colitis, with rectal bleeding and general abdominal discomfort. This young man, who ran a retail clothing outlet for a major manufacturer, was frustrated by company regulations. «The damn rules get in the way. I could sell more if they let me run the place my way,» he complained.
When I asked him if he had explained this to upper management, he mumbled something about their not understanding. Then he admitted he was too inhibited to «make waves.» Instead, he turned his anger and frustration inward, becoming depressed. He felt useless, nothing more than a cog in the company machinery.
Now he had no goals, nothing to look forward to. He told me that what he really wanted was to work in the company’s publicity department. He took no steps to achieve that goal, however, because he felt he wasn’t good enough to make it. That only increased his frustration and sense of worthlessness. Those unhappy thoughts were converted into chemical messages inside his head. From there, it’s a very short journey to the immune system.
An 18-year-old named Fred was another stress phobic I treated. He was in the hospital with marked anemia and weakness due to severe intestinal bleeding, diarrhea, abdominal pain and gas.
I met Fred’s father in the hospital one day. A very strong-willed man who ran a rubbish collecting company, he wanted Fred to take over the business. Fred wanted to be a poet, but couldn’t tell that to his father. Every time Fred went to work at the rubbish company, he developed increasing symptoms of bleeding. Feeling weak and lost, he unknowingly turned the feelings he couldn’t express into a painful and dangerous illness.
Feelings that had no outlet turned on Steve and Fred, making them sick. Again, it was their interpretation of the facts that mattered. A stress seeker in their shoes would have geared up his body for a fight, not retreated inward. In either case, of course, the result is disease.
Stress Phobics invite Cancer
If you talk to cancer patients, you’ll find that 70 to 75 percent of them experienced severe feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, frustration and/or inability to cope one to two years before their cancer was diagnosed. These feelings released the powerful immune-suppressing chemicals that allow cancer to flourish.
It’s well known that after the death of a spouse, the widow or widower’s immune system often weakens and falls, hitting rock bottom in about six months. Another six months pass, on the average, before the immune system returns to normal. What cripples the immune system? Not the fact that a spouse has died, but inconsolable grief, the guilt and the feelings of helplessness and hopelessness we sometimes feel in the wake of a death.
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